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Two recent books do a superb job of puncturing the argument that male sexuality is primarily a creature of evolutionary programming.
University of North Carolina professor Martha Mc Gaughey’s (Routledge, 2008) makes the convincing case that our beliefs about male sexuality form the science, and not the other way around.
No one thinks babies were the first thing on the mind of Jason Statham when he started dating a 23-year-old Victoria’s Secret model, or that Sean Penn, 50, is motivated by the desire to start a family with Scarlett Johansson, who’s barely half his age.
This is about the cultural cachet of dating a much younger woman—and about the difficult-to-deny reality that younger women lack the experience and wisdom to call their older lovers on their bulls**t.
It’s considerably different to imagine men jerking off to pictures of girls young enough to be their daughters—or granddaughters.
Since Hef published his first Playboy magazine in 1953, we’ve raised three generations of men to believe that women peak in desirability somewhere between 18 and 24. Ask a 17-year-old how often she’s been leered at (or worse) by a much older man.
Teen girls feign sexual sophistication; men need to be able to see through that.
Both Fine and Mc Gaughey make a compelling case that the actual science doesn’t support the idea that men’s sexual desires are driven by evolutionary imperatives.
In other words, John Derbyshire (and a lot of other grown men) may be sexually attracted to underage girls—but they don’t get to blame that fetish on biology.
We take it for granted that many men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s will be more sexually attracted to younger women than to their peers.
While most men and women alike are appalled by stories of adult men hitting on 12-year-olds, we still assume that men will “naturally” lust after young women just a few years older.